I make no bones about it – I
like to speak in front of an audience.
In a group, however, I am generally quiet…unless I am feeling very
comfortable. I know many people, that
one-on-one, or in a small group, have no problems speaking, being open and
honest and providing opinions. Stand
them in the front of the room (even behind the protection of a lectern) and
everything falls apart. I get it, I
understand it and recognize that most people would rather undergo something
painful against their bodies in lieu of speaking to an audience. The ability to stand in front of a crowd,
while seemingly natural to some people, is for most a learned skill.
I am a member of Toastmasters,
which helps people to feel comfortable to speak in front of other people and
provide leadership training. Needless to
say, I am a big fan and even though I enjoyed being on the stage prior to
joining, the skills that I have learned and practiced over the past few years
have enhanced my oration abilities. On
the way to earning an advanced speaker status, I had to give a 40 minute
seminar. As part of the seminar, I led
the group in ways to improve their speaking experience in two ways, how we use
our bodies and how we use our voices.
When we talk to our friends, most people will gesture. If we are talking to someone (especially on
the phone), based on their vocal usage, we can tell what they are feeling. Too many times, I have watched speaker grasp
the lectern with two hands and proceed to speak in a monotone voice, making
them look uncomfortable and unpleasant to listen to. Yes, there is a bit of theatrics that goes
with public speaking! Remember, the goal
is get across some message (your reason for speaking), stay on point of the
topic (i.e., 2 or 3 points supporting one thought), keep your audience’s
attention and /or provide some measure of entertainment, so that afterwards
they remember the message.
I need to spend a few lines on
keeping on topic. When we read a story,
there is a basic format of beginning, middle and end. When I first worked as a consultant, some 20+
years ago, my project manager, Charlie, made me present to the client and gave
me the simple advice, go out and tell them our story. I am not a natural storyteller, but the
advice has stuck with me, so that when I present, there is always a beginning,
middle and end (purpose, options / supporting info, conclusion). Public speaking is no different. If you want your audience to follow your
message and have a chance of remembering your words, have an easy to follow
beginning, middle and end. Too many
times, I feel that people speak just to hear themselves speak (yes, this
happens at meetings too). Unfortunately,
even people that speak publicly are not always self aware of what they say, the
message, nor how to “craft” a speech, or realize that sometimes a good message
can be delivered in 7 to 10 minutes.
I recently had the opportunity
to watch two people speak – one a novice and one seasoned at speaking to an
audience. Both of them had a beginning,
middle and end, both asked for an action to occur and both did a great
job. One of the speakers asked if I
could tell that they were nervous. I
responded that you looked up, engaged your audience and spoke slow and clear,
and, you looked calm and comfortable.
Unless you are sweating profusely, have a weird waver in your voice or use
some unusual gesturing, your audience will not know you are nervous. I have a small confession – the truth is that
I am always a little nervous before I speak, but I turn my nervousness into the
energy I use to help deliver the message.
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