“I think that I have an idea…”
someone in the group excitedly chimed in.
Everyone sat around in anticipation, as a new idea to help would be
extremely beneficial. It took only a minute
to lay out the thought, nothing earth shattering, nothing innovative, yet a
good solution to the issue at hand.
“Won’t work,” someone responded before we had a chance to vet out the
proposal.
“What do you mean?” someone
asked.
“Last time we did this, it
failed miserably,” was the response.
I scratched my head, in the
couple of years I had been involved, I do not remember this attempt. I asked, “How long ago was that?”
“Oh, 15, 20 years ago.”
I remember as a kid riding my
bicycle and one time the chain detached.
This caused me to pedal furiously with no results. My brain made that detached popping sound and
my mind raced widely trying to understand.
And then came the reasons why
today this would not work. I looked
around at the group and they all looked like deer caught in the headlights.
I related this story to
someone else. To paraphrase her
response, sometimes it is good to understand the history and the reasons why
something happened to gain perspective.
However, that does not mean it applies to today. As I thought about it, this is not an
isolated experience. I have heard this
before. Why is it that we base potential
future results on prior failures? Are we
in the identical situation with exactly the same players? Have we not learned anything in the time that
has passed? What happened to the old
adage, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again”? I realize that W.C. Fields restated the
quote, “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again. Then quit. There’s no point in being a damn fool about
it.” After a certain amount of time,
revisiting a potential solution, taking the time to understand why it failed,
especially when that was 15 – 20 years ago, is prudent.
In his book “Think, Fast and
Slow”, Daniel Kahneman points out that we quickly align situations presented to
us with past experiences that are similar to draw quick conclusions. Because the situation and our prior
experiences are similar, but not exactly the same, the conclusions we come to
might not be correct. Eckhart Tolle, in
“The Power of NOW” talks about how, as humans, we spend most of our time thinking
about past experiences (i.e., mentally reliving the past) and projecting into
the future (i.e., in terms of hope, fears, worries, anxieties). In both examples, there is the lack of
looking at our current situation and looking at what is occurring at this
moment.
I did realize afterwards, that
I too joined The Deer in the Headlights Club.
The answer shocked me, and I know that I repeated it in my head a few
times. Next time, I will be prepared to
reply, “That is unfortunate that it did not work in the past. Today is a new day, different people and
situations. Let’s discuss how we can
make it work today.”
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